Friday, December 24, 2021


 Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

I wish you all great joy on this Christmas Eve. Sweet Cheeks will be here tonight for ham and scalloped potatoes.

We had a party at work yesterday that, happily, was not a pot luck. It was catered. We ate our little hearts out and then had a gift exchange that had us all laughing. We even got to leave early, and today is a paid holiday. I am happy to be with Franklin and Penelope who did not complain about not rising at 6 a.m.

A lovely young lady came by with her two daughters and accepted my offering of children's books and Christmas cookies. I baked several kinds.

Sweet Cheeks shocked me last weekend by telling me he does not like my homemade cookies. People rave about my cookies, I told him.

I don't like cookies with things in them, he said. 

This statement mystified me for a moment. Things? Butter? Eggs? Cockroaches? What things had he found in my cookies that offended him? 

It turned out he doesn't like bits of candies in cookies. He also doesn't care for chocolate cookies or sugar cookies. He does like oatmeal raisin cookies (he is not disturbed by the fact that raisins look like dead flies), and he likes peanut butter cookies as long as nothing is added to them, such as chocolate chips.

So I am about to whip up a batch of peanut butter cookies for my dear Sweet Cheeks. He had damn well better eat them and like them.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug

Wednesday, December 15, 2021


 Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

Yesterday I passed an exam that allowed me to obtain the necessary credentials for my job. About half of us passed. I'm grateful to be one of them. The exam was quite difficult.

So I'm starting to return to holiday life. I've baked one kind of cookie, and I hope to bake a lot more Friday evening and Saturday. This evening I addressed Christmas cards, although I'm not sending as many as usual. 

I'm very happy to tell you that the folks in my new workplace are all polite and friendly––no shouts, threats, or harassment, and I'm certain that kind of behavior would not be tolerated. It's a delightful surprise after my last job.

Franklin and Penelope were shocked the first day I rose at 6 a.m. and left them on their own for the day, but they adjusted quickly. Their Auntie Maureen comes over every day to let them out and give them some attention. 

A reminder for jewelry lovers: Maureen makes adorable jewelry and sells it at 

Made with love earrings and more - Home | Facebook

You might need a gift for someone, or better yet, a gift for yourself, especially after you see what other people spring on you.

Almost every day I wear Christmas earrings made by Maureen.

I'll try to return to at least semi-regular blogging soon. I have a great story to tell about my recent mammogram, or boob squishing as I prefer to call it.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug

I love this shot of Franklin and Penelope because she 
actually leaned over him and kissed him on the mouth.

Sunday, December 5, 2021


 Dear Hearts,

My new job requires credentials I've never had before, so I need to study. If all goes well, I'll be with you again in a couple of weeks.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug

Tuesday, November 16, 2021


Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

Remember when Blogger told us that following blogs by email would end over the summer? It hasn't happened. Is it a way of lulling us into complacency and then suddenly slapping us with the loss? 

Do some of you who comment here have blogs that I'm not following? I look at profiles when they're available and don't always see a blog listed. If you follow/visit me, then I'd like to check out your blog. 

I continue to see that my comments don't always show up on your blogs, including when you don't have comment moderation enabled and I can see the comment before I depart. I swear I'm visiting you! Where do the comments go?

Do you have (American) Thanksgiving plans? I told Sweet Cheeks I will prepare a feast if he will join me. He accepted my invitation immediately, and I have already purchased most of the fixins.

A police officer knocked on my door last week. My son had to request that an officer accompany him so he could get more of his belongings from my garage. Everything went well. He is obeying the restraining order and has not disturbed my peace.

I received a summons for jury duty a while back. The first time I was to be there, I got in an accident on the interstate and had to call to explain why I hadn't arrived. The lovely lady who answered the phone for jury services told me it was okay and she would reschedule my service. The second time I was to be there, I dropped the hedge clippers on my foot the day before and had difficulty walking. The lovely lady rescheduled me for yesterday. On Friday I received a text and email telling me the court session was canceled and I did not need to appear. Hallelujah! 

Franklin's thyroid levels were checked again last week. The vet said they're spot on. With cooler temps, we're enjoying some long walks. Franklin no longer turns around to head for home after a short distance. Walking feels good, and it's good for us. 

If you decorate for Christmas, when do you set out your decorations? I usually decorate the day after Thanksgiving. I love the flashing of those pretty, little lights.

I hope you're having a great week.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug

Thursday, November 11, 2021


Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

Let's continue: What are you reading? What are you watching? What are you working on around the house? What are you chastising yourself about because you haven't worked on it? What have you done that's fun or relaxing or enjoyable? Fill me in.

If you read my first Whatcha Doin' post, then you know what I'm reading.

I've been watching The Comey Rule, which consists of four episodes on Netflix. It's a Showtime production that aired not long before the 2020 election. I thought it was excellent. It was especially interesting to see how James Comey's descriptions of his meetings with Donald Trump compared with Trump's statements about their interactions. Comey is played by Jeff Daniels, while Brendan Gleason has the odious task of portraying Trump.

I would characterize Trump and his staffers as deliberately obtuse. I say deliberate because they seemed to have no interest in correct information or understanding how the government does business. Of course, Trump fired Comey from his post as FBI Director, to which he had been appointed by President Obama. He seemed to think it was Comey's job to support Trumpland and its lies rather than to be loyal to the American people and the constitution.

Andrew McCabe (played by Michael Kelly) became the acting director of the FBI following Comey's departure. Trump infamously fired McCabe the day before he was to retire.  I noticed he was back in the news recently because his wrongful termination lawsuit led to the reinstatement of his pension and other benefits

You know my work around the house has included cleaning out my closet. Now I'm partway through cleaning out the coat closet in the foyer. It looks so much better already. I don't know if I'll also get to the storage closet in the foyer. It might have to wait. I'm just plain getting tired of cleaning out closets.

I'm chastising myself––not too strongly––because I haven't made all the appointments I need to take care of before the job begins. But tomorrow is another day, and this afternoon, my hair is my priority.

Fun, relaxing, and enjoyable can all be applied to weekend visits with Sweet Cheeks. He no longer speaks of going home Saturday night. He simply stays. Recently as I lay in his arms, he said, Everything is good between us because we love each other.

That's pretty hard to beat.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug

Wednesday, November 10, 2021


 With my friends at Two Men and A Little Farm, I can ponder such topics as, What do cows like to talk about when we can't hear them? and What do cows find humorous about people?


Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

My title comes from two recollections I had today. One is of a young woman I knew many years ago when I was an even younger woman. She was from Boston and told me how she hated it when Midwesterners replaced hi with hey.* I did not mention how it grated on my nerves when she said youse guys. The second is of a little girl who used to spend a lot of time with her grandparents next door.* When she spotted me she always called out, Hi! How are ya? 

So now I give you a hey and express a desire to know how you are and what's going on with you. What are you reading? What are you watching? What are you working on around the house? What are you chastising yourself about because you haven't worked on it? What have you done that's fun or relaxing or enjoyable? Fill me in.

To celebrate my job offer, I ordered a hardcover copy of Red Comet: The Short Life and Blazing Art of Sylvia Plath by Heather Clark. I did not realize I was getting a 1,000 page book, so for the next year when you ask what I'm reading, I'll probably answer Red Comet.

Plath is one of my two favorite poets. The other is Emily Dickinson. At page 140 in Red Comet, I'm thrilled by Clark's analysis of Plath's work, how it relates to her life, and how it changed as her skills and viewpoints developed. Clark uses a lot of quotations from letters and Plath's journals. I never noticed before that for all of Sylvia Plath's intelligence and fine education, she did not spell well, so (sic) turns up frequently. 

In her Prologue, I was thrilled to read Clark's goal: I hope to free Plath from the cultural baggage of the past fifty years and reposition her as one of the most important American writers of the twentieth century. . . . She ought to be remembered for her transcendent, trailblazing poems, not for gassing herself in her kitchen.

Loving Plath's poetry should not relegate one to a misogynistic concept of a suicide-loving cult. I find the relationship between Plath's life and her poetry of particular relevance because of the confessional aspect of her work, but she should not be read as merely confessional. There is so much more to her writing, and Plath herself said that she did not approve of what she called unformed cries from the heart.

I'm also fascinated by Plath's life because I see her as an emblem of the 1950's young woman who has been shaped by views of what a woman's life should be, yet she wants more. Plath wanted to marry and have children and be a wonderful cook and keep a lovely home, and she wanted to be an artist; and it is very hard to be a wife and a mother and a housekeeper and a cook and a laundress and find the time and energy for artistry or anything else.

I also wanted and wanted and was weighed down by expectations. 

Red Comet is my family room book––the book I read when I'm in that room. In my bedroom, I read on my kindle. My current book is Joyce Maynard's latest novel: Count The Ways. I might end up liking it even more than my favorite Maynard book, Labor Day. When my eyes are tired or I want to have my hands and eyes free to embroider, then I listen to an Audible book. At the moment it's Wild by Cheryl Strayed, which thus far does not impress me. I saw the movie version long ago. It didn't impress me either, but I retained hope for the book. Oh, well.

More to come. So much more to come.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug

*I remember the young woman from Boston because of the elaborate story she told me about her wealthy newspaper-owning family. I learned later than none of it was true.

**The grandparents moved away. I wasn't sorry to see the whole kit and caboodle go. I had once caught a glimpse of their kitchen and was shocked by the filth. After they left, I learned the entire house was in sad condition, with mold hanging like lace from the ceilings and fleas in the carpets. I hope the child's health wasn't damaged by the time she spent there. 

Sunday, November 7, 2021


 Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

I owe you all a huge apology for not writing to you in such a long time and not even publishing your most recent comments until today. I have been at war with an invader.

About two weeks ago, I realized my closet had been raided. I thought it was limited to a single aggressor who frolicked around my shoes and left his nasty calling card in a pair of yellow pumps. Then I noticed he had danced on top of a jewelry box with his mousy girlfriend.

As I vanquished closet detritus, I discovered he had brought his entire family along. At least I didn't have to see their ugly faces.

I'm not pleased that mice have been in my closet, and I find it odd that Franklin and Penelope didn't notice them; but it was a good opportunity for me to throw out old bank statements and other papers, and gifts of tchotchkes I never wanted. I took everything out of the closet, cleaned each shelf thoroughly, and added cotton balls soaked in vinegar. I'll replace the cotton balls regularly and if they don't keep the marauders at bay, then we'll have to hire an exterminator to figure out where they get in because I have no clue.

My closet is now gorgeous and spacious. I didn't take BEFORE pictures, but here's AFTER in its shining vinegarized glory:

Because I have accepted my fate as a woman of a certain age who no longer wears a heel higher than a quarter of an inch, many of my shoes can go, so now each shoe and slipper has its own cubby:

But we all know what happens after one area has been cleaned and organized. Now it's on to the closets in the foyer.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug

Wednesday, October 27, 2021


 Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

By Friday last week, I was resigned to taking the job that's not a job. I was to be there Monday morning.

On Oct. 12th I had a promising interview for a real job. Following all of my responses to her questions, the interviewer said, PER-fict. After a few questions, she changed that to PER-fict. PER-fict. I was to hear the decision on my employment in 24-48 hours. After hearing nothing for four days, I contacted the recruiter by email and by voice mail message. Crickets.

I continued to apply for jobs and respond to company representatives who had seen my résumé online and wanted to talk to me.

Last week on Wednesday, I had a perfunctory telephone interview, which led to a request for me to take a lengthy assessment. Then came a request for me to view and listen to 30 minutes of information about the job and take part in a 60 minute video interview on Friday afternoon. 

Friday morning, I nearly blew off the interview. I knew they would not hire me. Then I decided, rather reluctantly, that it wouldn't hurt to go through with it, but I made no special efforts. I took a shower at the last minute; my hair was wet and uncombed. I wore a t-shirt and jeans. Instead of sitting at my dining room table with good lighting and an attractive background, I sat in a comfortable chair with my feet up.

At the conclusion of the interview, an offer was made. I accepted. 

It's a real job with real pay and real benefits that begin in the beginning.

In a few weeks, I start work.

I'm pleased and excited and look forward to kicking butt.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug

Sunday, October 24, 2021


 I intended to write this post about a week ago, but I didn't get to it after the flying hedge clippers attacked my foot, which is much better now although I still can't bend my big toe, but what does it matter? I don't need to bend my big toe.

Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

I often feel embarrassed by Florida. I don't consider myself a Floridian because I wasn't born here and didn't grow up here so I don't have Florida in my blood, but I have lived here since 2009. Therefore, in some way I'm part of Florida. I'm the crazy radical socialist snowflake libtard feminazi side of Florida, and sometimes I think I'm the only one playing that role.

Florida politics make me want to say no, run away, and tell someone. But each time I get the feeling that it can't get worse in Florida, Texas tends to come along to distract the world from my state and its inherent dumbness. We have Ron DeSantis, but they have Greg Abbott. We have Marco Rubio, but they have Ted Cruz. Hahahahaha! Does it get any worse than Ted Cruz?

Recently I rejoiced in Texas drawing attention with headlines that announced 

Texas School Administrator to Teachers: Teach “Opposing” Sides of the Holocaust

Gina Peddy,  executive director for curriculum and instruction for the Carroll Independent school district, made the announcement Oct. 8 at a training meeting for elementary school teachers to assist them in complying with Texas House Bill 3979, signed into law Sept. 1 by Gov. Abbott.

The bill––an important example of legislators deciding what students are taught in place of educators doing so––bans educators from exploring disputed issues in the realms of history, society, and politics. If controversial issues do come up, then teachers are to “explore such issues from diverse and contending perspectives without giving deference to any one perspective.”

Everything we learned in our history classes has an opposing side. The brave colonists fought the tyranny of the British and yada yada yada we have the Declaration of Independence and the Constitution and George Washington and Benjamin Franklin, et al. 

Colonies = Good       England = Bad   

So if the subject should happen to come up, and it shouldn't because it has an opposing side, then the kids must learn 

Colonies = Bad          England = Good

The people of The Great State of Texas are going to love that one.

Slavery is certainly a controversial issue because it will most likely lead to the pesky topic of racism. After Black History Month in February, instead of Women's History Month in March, in Texas it should be Slavery Hall of Fame Month. Who were the greatest plantation owners? 

And those kids had better be taught about good ole President Thomas Jefferson and the many children he had with Sally Hemings, who no doubt loved Massa Jefferson so much that she was delighted to be his sex slave.

Then the teachers can move on to 

George Floyd = Bad   Derek Chauvin = Good

Reading a book about World War II and the brave Allies might be countered with Mein Kampf, in which a woke Hitler explains the need for German expansion and how awful those nasty Jews are.

A subset of World War II is the Holocaust, and the opposing side of the Holocaust is Holocaust denial. Teachers, be ready to hand out those adorable Camp Auschwitz t-shirts along with the book that argues The Diary of Anne Frank is a hoax.

Teaching students the opposing side of the Holocaust is to teach them that Hitler had valid claims and, therefore, prepare their minds to believe that Donald Trump's lies and the lies of Steve Bannon and Alex Jones, et al., are rational, justifiable points.

And that is simply not true.

Good luck, Children of Texas. You're gonna need it.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug

Wednesday, October 20, 2021


 Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

I invoked Mitchell in my title because those of us who know and love Mitchell understand he's a wee bit accident prone. 

I had a little accident of my own a few days ago. I was removing some of the lower stems and fronds* from the large philodendron in my backyard because Franklin likes to hide under it when he attempts to stay out all night. I can't go to bed with my man out of the house. At 3 a.m. he'd probably change his mind and want to come in, which would lead to barking that would wake up everyone within 100 miles or so and I'd have to drag my sorry ass out of bed.


The big hedge clippers and I tried to cut through an especially sturdy stem and whoosh! The clippers rebelled and jumped out of my hands. If it had been a movie, they would have somersaulted in the air and landed blades down sunk in the ground right next to my feet. I don't know about you, but I don't live in a movie; therefore, the clippers landed with a thud on my right foot. I'm happy to say it was the handles and not the blades.

It hurt like a sonovabitch. I lowered my head and in my mind said terrible, nasty words. I didn't want to react in front of Franklin and Penelope because I knew they would be frightened if I yelled.

I limped to the garage, put away the clippers, and limped toward the house as I realized something wet was coming out of my foot. I had a cut on my big toe. I cleaned and bandaged it. It's healing. My foot is still swollen and very sore. I think my big toe is broken so I taped it to its sister toe and iced it regularly.

I've stayed in place as much as possible this week. I might be able to put on a shoe tomorrow, or at least a sandal.

I'm sorry I'm behind on responding to your kind comments and reading your blog posts. I have catching up to do and will do it as long as I can stay away from flying hedge clippers. For now, though, we're headed to bed.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug

 *I have no idea if they're called stems and fronds but I don't know what else to call them.

**I took this photo in much wetter times. It's dry in the yard now and the weather is beautiful––sunny, blue skies, highs about 80 and lows around 70.

Friday, October 15, 2021


Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

Thank you for joining me on this exploration of memory. I have proven to myself that I can write about Mother and remember her without becoming depressed/angry/anxious.

I no longer hear that voice in my head, criticizing everything I do. She's been dead many years. It's taken me a long time to get here.

I'm not saying I'll never bring up Mother again. Some of the things she said were stupid enough to be funny.

Almost 20 years ago, it occurred to me that she was probably depressed, but as a child of the '30s, she never would have recognized it or talked about it. Other than when she issued commands, she was rather inarticulate. Six children was too many. I don't know if she could have handled fewer children better; it might have helped. My brother was the oldest. He was 17 when I was born. She was 38. I can't imagine I was a wanted child. I don't know if any of us were wanted children. She probably believed it was her lot in life to have kids and do laundry and cook for everyone.

She seldom mentioned her own mother and only spoke of her father occasionally. He died when she was a teen. The one story I remember her telling about her mother was a tale of Mother in high school, allowing herself to be called by her first name alone, rather than her first name and middle name as her mother wanted. She said that when her mother found out, "She took me home and beat the shit out of me."

I wonder if her early life consisted of such chaos and abuse that it drove her to try to control every aspect of our lives. If I was cold, she told me, You can't possibly be cold!

I already told you about how she lost things frequently yet became incensed if I lost something. She also said I had no friends. The one who didn't have friends was Mother.

She was fat, but obsessed with our weight.

When I was 15, she started working part time in a children's clothing store. She often said she didn't understand parents who asked their kids if they liked certain clothes. Kids don't know what they like! she exclaimed. So that was the belief behind the strange things I had to wear. I was wearing what she liked, which had nothing to do with what regular kids wore.

But there was good in Mother, too. We always had plenty to eat. She cooked and baked. 

She complained that when she was a child, everything was given to her older sister, who got to take all sorts of lessons. Mother said that everything should be equal. I don't know if my brother and oldest sister took piano lessons, but the rest of us did. Three of us took them for many years. I didn't want to be in the school band, but my older sisters all had instruments and marched with the band and played in concerts. 

Mother was generous. She often baked for people who were bereaved or in need of something good to eat. When X and I lived in Manhattan, Kansas, she and my dad went to Fort Riley regularly to shop. She asked what I'd like and would drop off some groceries. She provided many clothes and toys for our son.

After my father died, she was heartbroken. I don't think it ever became easier for her. Mother visited us at times. She also called me regularly, crying, to complain about someone in X's family who would not leave her alone and had a talent for bringing up upsetting things that Mother didn't want to talk about. If I had told the person to stop, it would have made the situation worse, and X was of no help. It was frustrating that I couldn't do anything to help her.

When she was in the hospital before she died, I couldn't go to see her. We'd had 36 inches of snow. The airports were closed. Driving from Maryland to Kansas was an impossibility. Even getting to the funeral a few days later was difficult. Flights were delayed because of bad weather. When we finally landed, we had to drive through thick fog to reach our destination. It was the same when we returned. 

A lot of people attended. We cried as the eulogist called to memory the happy, funny times we had mentioned to her. No one talked about the bad.

It was a rough life with Mother in many ways. Although she didn't want me to get a college education, she and my dad were thrilled when I got an Associate's Degree. Mother would have been happy when I finished my BA and became a newspaper reporter. She would have read everything I wrote.

She was devoted to her grandchildren and often had the grandkids in her city in and out of her house.

In some ways, I think she lived a hard life. Mother lived by the standards of womanhood in her youth. She didn't change.

I did.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug 


 Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

When I wanted to help with something around the house, You won't do it right, said Mother.

Consequently, I didn't learn a lot of every day things that most people know. Plus, my older sisters hated me because they had to clean the house, while I seemed to get a free pass other than being required to put clean sheets on my bed––which I didn't do right––and when I was older, vacuum my bedroom, which I didn't do right.

When I was a teenager, I saw Mother getting out the decorations to put on the Christmas tree. I want to help, I said.

You won't do it right, said Mother.

I was never allowed to hang a single decoration on the Christmas tree.

Mother also made it her duty to ensure I had no confidence.

She often told me I was "thick-headed" and if I ever wanted to have any money, then I'd better marry a rich man. You don't have any friends, she often told me, because of the way you act. No one likes you.

I didn't know then and don't know now how I "acted." I also don't know why kids would come by the house to spend time with me. According to Mother, they were not my friends.

Along with the emotional abuse was the never-ending threat of physical abuse. She liked to beat my older sisters with a yardstick or a fly swatter, but me, for some reason, she liked to slap across the face. When I was as tall as she was and definitely stronger, I continued to cower before her raised hand.

Small things could send her into a rage. It didn't occur to me until much later that she was guilty of those small things. If I misplaced something or actually lost something, she became furious. 

She lost things all the time, especially her keys. She got a huge key ring so maybe she'd be able to key track of the keys, but she couldn't. She laughed about it, but if I couldn't find something, it was the stuff of nightmares.

To this day I remain terrified of losing anything.

Mother was rather large, yet she went on and on about the size of some of my older sisters. She'd wave her hands in despair. They're big-boned, she'd say.

When I was in junior high and wore a pep club uniform that included a gray skirt, she told me my legs were too big for me to wear a short skirt. I think I weighed about 90 pounds. Probably not even that much.

The summer before I started high school, I gained a few pounds. Mother became apoplectic with rage. It didn't take long for me to lose the weight. Boy, that gym class sure took the weight off you, she said.

The gym class had 60 girls in it. By the time the teacher finished taking attendance, we had about 10 minutes to do whatever bullshit the teacher wanted us to do. I lost the weight because I ate only one meal a day. Mother would have been delighted if I had been anorexic.

A friend told me that every time she won a medal in forensics her mother sewed it to a piece of black velvet that went in a case hung on the wall. I won numerous medals. I don't think my parents ever looked at them or knew what I had done to win them.

During my senior year in high school, I won a substantial scholarship in a state-wide essay contest. If you really want to go to KU, maybe we could manage it, she whined.

I hung my head. I don't want to.

I knew what was expected of me. I took some classes at the university in town, where I remained other Mother's thumb.

Mother did like one thing about me. People often mentioned how pretty I was. Once when I played in a piano recital, she heard someone behind us say, She always looks so cute.

That put a smile on Mother's face, but it confused me. If I was so stupid and unworthy of friendship, then how could I possibly be pretty?

I think her belief in my looks furthered her determination to keep me from having a career. You will never be able to hold down a job. If something went wrong, you'd fall apart. You'd better get married or you'll never have anything.

I had a long-term boyfriend but he had turned out to be a jerk. I wanted to break up with him but didn't dare to do so because I knew Mother would say he broke up with me and then list the many reasons I wasn't worthy of him or anyone else.

My desperation to hold onto him because of Mother led me into a deep depression.

When I was finally free of him and starting to recover, I began dating someone else. As soon as it was feasible, I married him. I still had most of the money from the scholarship along with other money I'd saved. I used it for my husband's education.

Although she'd been desperate for me to marry, my performance as a wife did not please her. What are you fixing for dinner? tended to lead to That's not enough, so I invented large, substantial meals that were far beyond our means.

Even so, That nice boy will divorce you became one of her refrains

That nice boy was not so nice. 

We had an agreement that he would get his BA and then I would get mine. When he came home one day and announced he wanted to get his PhD, I didn't dare say a word.

The good part was that he got into graduate school in another state. I could escape Mother.

to be continued . . . and it's not all bad

Wednesday, October 13, 2021


 Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

When the weather was warm enough for me to wear shorts to elementary school, I put on the shorts and top selected by Mother––she chose all my clothes––and tried to sneak out of the house before she saw my sandals. Why?

I wanted to wear the sandals on my bare feet. That's not nice, said Mother.

She caught me every time and I had to wear my sandals with socks, which led to the other kids at school asking repeatedly, Why do you wear sandals with socks?

Because my mom makes me.

It was embarrassing to be different in such an obvious way in addition to all the ways I was already different.

Mother had always been driven to despair by my thin, fine hair. When I was in the fourth grade, she bought a fall that I had to wear to school every day. The fall was quite close to being a wig. The other kids knew something was up, and one day on the playground, I bent over to pick up a ball and it fell off.

Why are you wearing that?

Because my mom makes me.

On special occasions that weren't really special, such as a field trip, Mother chose dresses for me to wear to school. Okay, I could survive that, and of course, I had to wear the dresses with tights. Then she found ugly, lacy tights that were itchy and made me wear them.

Why are you wearing those? They're so ugly.

Because my mom makes me.

When I was 14, I babysat full time during the summer for $25 a week. I put each check in my savings account. When I got the last check, I wanted to go to Macy's to buy a necklace and a new shirt for school. 

Not allowed. The entire check went in savings.

She had my dad put a new lock on the bathroom door, one that had a key kept on top of the doorframe, with the flimsy excuse that a young child who had joined the family might lock herself in the bathroom, which she was much too old to do. 

I knew where the key would lead. Sure enough, she plowed into the bathroom while I was naked and taking a bath. 

I stole the key and hid it. I was surprised when neither one of them asked about it.

When I was about 17, I discovered the joy of sleeping naked. The house was much too cold for nudity during the winter, but oh, how good it felt to slide my naked self between the sheets when it was hot. But early one morning Mother burst into my room and told me to move over so she could sit on my bed. I want to talk to you.

She sat, and then distracted from whatever she wanted to tell me, asked, Aren't you wearing pajamas?


That's not nice, said Mother.

There I was on the verge of adulthood, but Mother still came in my bedroom without knocking. She still chose my clothes. She often belittled me for being cheap and not spending money, but on the rare occasion I was allowed to purchase something with money I had earned, she hated my selection. 

I was the squirming mouse in a giant's iron grip.

to be continued . . . and it's not all bad

Sunday, October 10, 2021


 Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

Years ago, Sweet Cheeks got me some shelves for my office supplies (he knew that shelves and a steel front door were the way to this woman's heart). Recently, I piled books on them in addition to the pens and papers and staplers and paper clips. Saturday afternoon I moved the shelves so I could clean up a vast accumulation of dog hair and this happened:

It was too much. I had already been disappointed by the job that isn't a job. The collapse of the shelves frightened Franklin, who hightailed it outside and refused to come in.

It was a nice afternoon and I was in no rush to deal with the reality of repairs and picking up, so Penelope and I joined Franklin outside.

We enjoyed the sun.
Penelope listened to birds overhead.

I looked up at the trees.

When we went inside, I checked my phone and found an email from a recruiter who thought I was a good match for a certain job. She asked some questions; I answered some questions. We made an appointment for an initial phone interview. This job is a real job with better pay and benefits that begin on the first day. I'll let you know what happens. Some other opportunities are also promising and I have not turned down the job that isn't a job. It pays and might lead to a real job with the company.

Because it is autumn, Sweet Cheeks' annual rage against the University of West Virginia's football coach is in full swing (SC grew up in West Virginia and attended WVU). Last Saturday, WVU lost by 4 points at the last minute. SC arrived morose. He cheered up after some affectionate embraces. About midnight he said, Well, I think I'll head home now.

But he didn't leave the recliner in which he rested, and a few minutes later, I heard a gentle snore. Soon he made the move to the chair next to mine and asked for a pillow and blanket. He finished out the night in my bed, where he stayed till 9 a.m. He often talks of not sleeping well at home (he sleeps on the floor, which I do not understand). I am glad when he leaves my home satisfied and well rested.

Yesterday, however, West Virginia lost by a lot. Really a lot, in a game they should have won easily, according to my Sweet Cheeks, and it is all because the football coach does not do what my Sweet Cheeks says he should do, which has something to do with a quarterback. He arrived grumpy. I had started picking up the mess on the floor and much of it was spread across the dining room table. I reneged on my offer to prepare tender chicken with the seasoned rice he loves and requested dinner out. He didn't want to go someplace to wait and stand in line and it would be too much trouble and this and that. I made a reservation online and off we went and were seated immediately. His mood improved.

He dozed off in the recliner when we returned. After he awoke, we had a snack and then enjoyed a gymnastics exhibition in bed. He fell asleep in the bed afterward and stayed asleep till 10 a.m., when he went home happy. 

I was pleased this evening because it was cool enough for Franklin and me to have our first walk in months that exceeded the trip around the block we sometimes make in the heat. I chatted with the parents of a Greyhound and a Shiba Inu while Franklin and the dogs exchanged butt sniffs.

Franklin walked happily and easily and not once did he turn around to request we go home.

Yes, things are looking up.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug

from the inside of a Bark Box

Thursday, October 7, 2021


 Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

Thank you for the support you give me regularly, and especially now, regarding my son. Your comments are kind and they help me a lot.

If I could bake for each and every one of you, I would give you chocolate chip cookies fresh from the oven and still warm, soft and gooey, and I'd pour a big glass of milk for you to enjoy with the cookies.

I am feeling rather sorry for myself. About an hour ago I learned that the job is probably not a real job. Yes, it exists and it pays, but it is not with the company itself, and therefore, is without the company benefits package. To be hired with the company, one must be "good enough" on the job. No promise exists about this happening with a certain time frame. It might be a few months and it might be never.

I guess I'll start looking again tomorrow. I haven't said I won't take the job, so if I don't find a real job with a real company, then I can still take this third-party job to make a few dollars. 

I always try to visit your blog posts a second time to see if you've responded to comments because it's nice to have a conversation. I have just finished my second visit to a number of blogs only to find that my comments are not there. I know I wrote the comments. I know they were published (if you don't moderate comments). So I don't know where they went. Anyfranklin, if you think I'm not visiting your blog, then think again. I'm trying.

Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug