Monday, January 2, 2012


Dear Readers,

What did you do to welcome the New Year?

I did something I have never done before: I committed murder. 

No, your eyes are not deceiving you. It was much easier than I thought it would be. 

 I killed Lola. Since she was a blow up doll, all I had to do was take a nice big needle and puncture her in a few places.

Please forgive me for leaving her chest uncovered in this photo. She isn't all that realistic-looking, so I wasn't too worried about covering her up.

Lola didn't suit me anymore.

I want to explore my identity without Lola hanging around. I want to find out who I am.

Yes, it's true: I am 52 years old, and I don't know who I am. I've had many identities, but I don't know if any of them were me. I made them up in acts of avoidance, such as avoiding abuse. Recently, I tried on a new identity. I thought she fit me perfectly. I thought at long last I knew who I was. I made her the best of me.

But she wasn't good enough. Now I'm lost again.

And I'm not going to find myself in a blow up doll box.

 So that's what I did at midnight. I poked Lola full of holes and threw her in the trash. The demise of Lola does not mean we'll never enjoy her sense of humor again or marvel at her quirkiness. But the aspects of her personality that we like will have to come from within me.

So, what did you do to welcome the New Year? Please don't tell me you killed someone unless you also had an unwanted Lola.

Infinities of love,



  1. Well I didn't get to stab a blow up doll. What the heck I always miss out on the fun. lol We just hung out with some friends had a few good laughs and crashed around three. Over all it was a good night.

  2. I think to be able to see new post you have to start a whole new blog...but that would mean you would lose all your stuff. But it would show a new post.

  3. Coffey, If I had to start a whole new blog for you to see a new post, then you wouldn't see the post you commented on just a little while ago. If you can see a post on this page, a post called WHAT? MONDAY with the date Monday, January 2, 2012, then we're good to go.

  4. I am so behind on your posts! Forgive me! I think I'm gonna like Janie Junebug as much as I liked Lola! I promise to catch up soon!!!!

  5. Melynda, Perhaps next New Year's Eve you will get your chance with a blow up doll -- to stab her, I mean.

    Stephanie, Chill! I'm having trouble catching up after the weird holidays, too. We'll get there -- or not. I'm taking it one thing at a time and trying to set priorities.


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