Today I participate in a blog hop hosted by Michael D'Agostino of A Life Examined. Please visit Michael's blog to sign up. Now let's go to the hop!
Michael's question for December is the following: Which one social convention would you get rid of?
I've been thinking and thinking and pondering this question and didn't know what my answer would be until the minute I put the question on my computer screen. It's something I mentioned in a blog comment earlier this evening:
The answer is smiling. Why should I smile if I don't feel like it? I'm sick unto death of people telling me, SMILE!
Bite me. Bite my little pink butt.
I seldom smile because I'm embarrassed by my bad teeth, but an even more important reason is that I have TMJ. About twenty years ago when the pain from the TMJ became intense, a doctor sent me to a biofeedback specialist. I told her I had headaches all the time. She had a little machine to measure muscle tension. She hooked it up to my forehead. No real tension. It's my jaw, I'm telling you, I remember saying.
She put the machine on my jaw, and the number zoomed. I had ten sessions of biofeedback therapy to help me learn to relax the muscles in my face. It didn't end my headaches, but it improved my TMJ.
So before you command someone to smile, consider the possibility that smiling can be painful. We scrunch up the muscles in our jaws when we smile. And that thing people say about frowning taking more effort than smiling?
I'll smile in a drawing of me.
Excellent question, Michael.
Infinities of love,