Sunday, January 10, 2021

MY RESPONSE TO YOUR COMMENTS ABOUT THE ATTACK

Gentle Readers . . . and Maxwell,

Thank you for reading and commenting on my previous post. I knew I could count on you for support and ideas.

I'm not sure about Go Fund Me. I'll look into it. I don't know what it takes to set it up. I feel a bit uncomfortable about opening myself up to people other than you, Dear Ones. I don't think I can take it if someone says, She deserved it. It's about time someone tried to shut her up. It's her own fault. You know what I mean? Victims are further victimized all the time. I know I don't deserve those comments, but I might get some.

The police gave me a booklet with phone numbers to call for help. I need to look at it carefully. I think it has phone numbers for requesting different kinds of assistance, including financial.

So much needs to be done. I have no idea what the expenses will be on top of two trips to the ER. My glasses are broken; I'm wearing an old pair. The house is filthy; I try to clean up something each day as my pain allows.  I have to see a maxillofacial surgeon; my primary care physician put in a referral and said if I don't hear from them this week I should let her know. It's cold; my furnace is broken, but I have space heaters for now. My emotions are all over the place; I've seen therapists before and they never helped. They always say the same thing: You should do volunteer work to take your mind off of yourself. Oh, yeah? Go do your own damn volunteer work. I've done more than my share. If I don't think about myself right now, in this moment and for many days to come, nothing will get better.

I have short-term and long-term goals. Long term includes better windows on the house. Most of mine are old, single-pane windows. The locks are worthless. 

I have a security system that I want to upgrade.

Yes, I know my attacker. I 'm not ready to say more than that for now.

My next blog post will be something normal, something I planned on writing after Christmas. My plans were derailed. I want to get back on track to the extent I'm able.


Infinities of love,

Janie Junebug

45 comments:

  1. Um, I've been to A LOT of therapists. Yours are doing it wrong. Find someone who does it right. You can't change the path your on if you don't work on YOU first, volunteering isn't helping that.

    Can one of the neighbors take your glasses to be fixed or can you have the lenses put into an inexpensive pair of cheaters? We've done that in a pinch. Maybe they can help you by dropping them off at a 1 hour lenscrafters?

    When I had no money to do the windows I bought inexpensive clear vinyl plastic (the kind you use on table tops and such) and literally duct taped it to my windows. It made a HUGE difference with keeping the wind out. If it works in New England, it should do you some good down there.

    Other tahn that, all I have is HUGS. Stay safe my friend.

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    1. Thank you for your suggestions. One lens has a gouge, so putting them in a cheap frame won't help. I can't afford new glasses at the moment. The problem with the windows involves more than keeping out the cold. They aren't secure. I appreciate your perspective on therapists.

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    2. BTW, It's me Juli... not sure what gmail is linked to Manic Momma

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    3. Oh, Juli! Didn't know it was you. Didn't see the email address.

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  2. Hang in the honey and don't over do it. You'll get there. I found it very disturbing this was done by someone you knew. Share as little or as much feelings as you need....well listen. Tale care of yourself.

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    1. Men are more likely to harm or even kill women they know.

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  3. Change your locks and get deadbolts immediately!

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  4. The assault and aftermath sound horrible enough. Even worse that someone you know did this! 😢 I hope the police arrest him and also that you can use some of the resources they provided. Something like victim aid? ~sending virtual hug~

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  5. locks and deadbolts NOW! and the police should execute your attacker. or we your blog friends can beat him to death for you; he won't try that again.

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  6. Sending hugs and best wishes, Janie. I hope you can find people who will help with your pain and trauma.

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  7. Hi Janie - I can only wish the best for you now ... with thoughts and hugs - Hilary

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  8. I'm glad you have some avenues for support and plans for improving the security of your house. Please take care of yourself and keep us posted!

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  9. You will find your way. I agree that going public may really help. Getting some kind of advice and assistance--sounds like they have left you organizations to call. Amazing they even did that! They may help you find your way through all this. *love and hugs*

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  10. Take a deep breath, let it out slowly and say I can do this....repeat often.

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  11. Here is a link to an elder abuse hotline: https://www.caregiver.org/adult-protective-services-and-elder-abuse-hotline-1
    Perhaps in your area there is a senior center you can go to for help with household chores and/or meals.

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    1. I don't think I qualify for senior services, but I'll check.

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  12. Oh, Janie. I just don't know what to say. It's horrific and unbelievable that happened. I hope each day gets better than the day before.
    Thinking of you.

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    1. It's up and down. I was nearly pain free on Monday. Today (Tuesday) the terrible muscle spasms are back.

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  13. It doesn't matter if you knew your attacker or not. You were attacked, PERIOD! I am sure there are resources out there -

    Keep on, keeping on. You will get through this.

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  14. I am still in shock Not sure what I can say to help.
    Please be safe.
    gayle

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  15. Janie, you break our hearts. I hope you find money in that police booklet. GoFundMe doesn't work except for the very lucky.

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  16. Oh, my goodness! I just read your back posts! I am stunned that this happened to you! Hoping all the right wheels are in motion for you!

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    1. First, I need to make a physical recovery. I'm still in a lot of pain.

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  17. I had to go back and see what happened. My God, what a terrible thing! Is there an organization in your area who helps abused women? I am thinking if there isn't, there should be one. Healing of the body will come but the mental part of it along with financial aid, that seems to be what is needed most. I don't know if anything is helpful, what I have written here, but just know that I am hopeful that you realize how strong you really are.

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    1. Yes, we have organizations that help. My city is a large one.

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  18. Sending you lots of hugs, Janie. We're all here for you. xo

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    1. Thank you, Martha. Your blog always makes me smile.

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  19. I am confident you will find your way, and hope that being here helps a bit in your healing xoxo

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  20. I thought I had commented on this, Janie, but apparently not. As I'm reading backwards, I know you're coming along. I felt badly when I read that Franklin and Penelope were afraid and having oopsies. What a traumatic event! I hope the perp is held to account! Bastard!

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    1. I accidentally hit return. Sending you a big hug!!!

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