tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post6717743217240744012..comments2024-03-21T11:50:29.630-04:00Comments on Janie Junebug Righting & Editing: BULLY FOR YOU: LINDA RECALLS PHYSICAL BULLYING OF HER DAUGHTERJanie Junebughttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-58882271921759618572014-07-10T09:47:50.268-04:002014-07-10T09:47:50.268-04:00It sounds like you handled it perfectly, Linda. It...It sounds like you handled it perfectly, Linda. It had to be so tough to keep your cool in those circumstances. It's too awesome that the principal got to witness the "accident" for himself. Nicki Elsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11412032684225126973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-48838612797429054632014-07-09T19:13:47.336-04:002014-07-09T19:13:47.336-04:00I do wonder what will happen to that mousy child w...I do wonder what will happen to that mousy child who was bullying your child. <br />I also am at a loss at how schools STILL do not know how to handle bullying. Granted back in the day kids threw fists, but it seems to have escalated to something much different these days. MissFifihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09948141818594611257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-87072598886388211372014-07-09T19:11:42.435-04:002014-07-09T19:11:42.435-04:00Oh how I hate it when the victim of a bully is cal...Oh how I hate it when the victim of a bully is called a liar it really makes my blood boil I feel once something has been reported the school should watch without being seen to see what is really happening and then take steps to fix the problem not that it is easy to fix the problem that I know as you said the bully can become very good at hiding what they are doing. Jo-Anne's Ramblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11418152399382818709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-31702072756044379102014-07-09T18:19:21.421-04:002014-07-09T18:19:21.421-04:00Good for you that you followed through and support...Good for you that you followed through and supported your daughter. She showed tremendous self-restraint. I know what I was like at that age and if anyone had kicked me I would have been loudly vocal in outrage and if it kept up I would have kicked her right back...well, or more probably pinned her down on the ground and lectured her--LOL! Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02043285884495492598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-2461624156238992542014-07-09T15:22:34.057-04:002014-07-09T15:22:34.057-04:00"She asked very defensively what my daughter ...<b> "She asked very defensively what my daughter did to her daughter...."</b> It's always the same. Your own child can't possibly be an idiot or a bully, and parents get defensive when their child is criticized. Typical. And that principal person should be smacked and asked to be understanding.Blue Grumpsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03106493133778319165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-51450375592757760032014-07-09T13:56:07.404-04:002014-07-09T13:56:07.404-04:00Wow. Now that's a mature way to handle things ...Wow. Now that's a mature way to handle things from a parental standpoint. I don't think I could be that cool headed. Must work on that one. Crystal Collierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03912469552483168148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-15828055915870291152014-07-09T11:22:23.964-04:002014-07-09T11:22:23.964-04:00I think Shady is spot-on.
Doesn't it just mak...I think Shady is spot-on.<br /><br />Doesn't it just make our hearts shrink up when we know our kids are being hurt???<br /><br />-andiandi filantehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00046051034556807447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-69891895737363784122014-07-09T10:36:56.470-04:002014-07-09T10:36:56.470-04:00Hi, Linda. I have no idea why the reply button isn...Hi, Linda. I have no idea why the reply button isn't working. Sometimes it doesn't work for me. That's Blogger.Janie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-79756778425071855972014-07-09T10:09:15.186-04:002014-07-09T10:09:15.186-04:00People always assume it's the popular, pretty ...People always assume it's the popular, pretty kids bullying those who are lesser in social status, but that isn't the case. In fact, when I was in school, I often saw people speaking very bitterly about popular people and even making fun of them where they could hear it. One popular girl was telling me that she went up to a girl who always dressed differently and asked if she wanted to participate in something she was doing. The girl spit in the popular girl's face...just because she asked her a question. It's jealousy and it's sad, but it's probably one of the least talked about forms of bullying you see among young girls.Stephanie Farishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10461865229341760836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-24269090883548023342014-07-09T03:56:59.346-04:002014-07-09T03:56:59.346-04:00Karen,
You know I can find out how a bully of anot...Karen,<br />You know I can find out how a bully of another little kid is doing. I may just call the mother. Her child did not bully my child, but idolized him.<br /><br />Hilary, thanks.<br /><br />Janie, I wonder why I cannot use the reply button on your blog. I know I have had problems with my blog, but this is the only blog so far where I cannot use the reply button. Sorry I am having to reply this way.Practical Parsimonyhttp://www.practical-parsimony.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-56305352778887775622014-07-09T03:53:59.463-04:002014-07-09T03:53:59.463-04:00Armchair,
Thanks for the support.
Elizabeth Seckm...Armchair,<br />Thanks for the support.<br /><br />Elizabeth Seckman,<br />I was so surprised that the mother was not concerned and blamed it on my daughter. Yes, that spoke volumes. But, I was determined to get peace for my daughter. No one should have to learn to put up with bullies.Practical Parsimonyhttp://www.practical-parsimony.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-22139172887179609312014-07-08T21:27:29.760-04:002014-07-08T21:27:29.760-04:00I would have kicked back. Harder. Which is why I...I would have kicked back. Harder. Which is why I don't say much on Mondays.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-12355661350571735092014-07-08T18:50:46.122-04:002014-07-08T18:50:46.122-04:00what a horrible position to be in. so difficult to...what a horrible position to be in. so difficult to deal with, especially when they get sneaky. moving post!<br /><br />and thank you, Janie for commenting on my broken branch falls blog tour at crystal's!Tara Tylerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07587802105993889515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-45876198457872432082014-07-08T18:22:34.528-04:002014-07-08T18:22:34.528-04:00I'm so sorry about the heart attack, but I'...I'm so sorry about the heart attack, but I'm always glad to pray for anyone who needs it. Janie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-16945569058346380452014-07-08T13:10:30.552-04:002014-07-08T13:10:30.552-04:00Hi Janie and Linda - it seems you dealt with it so...Hi Janie and Linda - it seems you dealt with it so well ... but what a dreadful thing to happen to anyone .. my thoughts to one and all .. and congratulations on your beautiful daughter! Cheers to you both .. HilaryHilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-63672564319295630402014-07-08T12:51:39.153-04:002014-07-08T12:51:39.153-04:00I remember bullying that was directed at each of m...I remember bullying that was directed at each of my three kids. It was very upsetting and hard to deal with as school authorities didn't really want to address it. In one case it was directed at my daughter (and all females athletes) by a male teacher. I'm telling you, if I had it to do over again, I'd seriously consider home schooling. I realize that doesn't solve the issue - rather side-steps it - but even though each child learned to deal with the behavior in a positive way, it still leaves scars. Luckily, they are all happy, well adjusted adults, due to unending family love and support (and a fair amount of Mama calling the school!) Can't say how the bullies turned out.karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16313237142656662148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-37356030364573321262014-07-08T11:46:15.518-04:002014-07-08T11:46:15.518-04:00The simple fact that the mother turned a deaf ear ...The simple fact that the mother turned a deaf ear to you speaks volumes. My youngest once hooked up with a bully on his school bus and shared a seat with the bully. Well, it seems the bully enjoyed verbally taunting kindergarteners, and unfortunately my son joined him. The mom of the kindergartener caught my son as the bus unloaded and screamed at him (he was in the 1st grade). Had she simply called me (we live in a small town, not hard to figure out what child belongs to whom) I'd have appreciated it. The way she did it? I called her and told her to never bully my kid again or I'd call the police. An adult approaching and screeching at a 6 yr old is uncalled for. <br />(side note, my son thought my ire at the mom would save him from trouble, but no- this mom can multi-task and he was severed from a friendship and electronics. Kids will be kids, but they need adult guidance)Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-27245237206351961962014-07-07T22:53:29.705-04:002014-07-07T22:53:29.705-04:00I came by to thank you for the good wishes for my ...I came by to thank you for the good wishes for my hubs at Roland's blog (Writing in the Crosshairs). He is stable for now but sedated (heart attack). I appreciate any help getting him better.<br /><br />I also wanted to comment on the post above: my daughter was also bullied by little girls in middle school and last years of high school. All verbal: threats of being beat up by high school girls, even came to our house one night and yelled at my daughter to come out. I called local police and alerted them. Then two years down the road, a lawyer's daughter starts threatening her in the hallway where everyone in her class can hear. I went Mother Bear on these events and made the school system deal with the issue. They didn't suspend or expel the offending parties in either case. I suspect jealousy was the root of both these incidents. I did get support but I had to push for it. I understand how it feels to see your child get picked on for no reason other than animosity. D.G. Hudsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06213237734772028645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-48374661051248200692014-07-07T21:32:49.247-04:002014-07-07T21:32:49.247-04:00Thank you for sharing, Linda. I'm so sorry yo...Thank you for sharing, Linda. I'm so sorry your daughter had to endure this.The Armchair Squidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10739833215220853127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-14361059746468830442014-07-07T21:19:36.516-04:002014-07-07T21:19:36.516-04:00Sherry,
Yes, I do believe it was jealousy. There ...Sherry, <br />Yes, I do believe it was jealousy. There was nothing wrong with the little girl, she was just not the little beauty, firecracker that Lisa was. I had to stay on top of it. The mama has to stay the fight. <br /><br />Stephen,<br />Thankfully, this was ended soon and she was young. L was always on the case of bullies when she was older. I suppose the bullies in school figured you were getting enough grief, so they just moved on to someone else. Practical Parsimonyhttp://www.practical-parsimony.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-61366411504828054602014-07-07T21:15:43.910-04:002014-07-07T21:15:43.910-04:00Silver Fox,
I was absolutely amazed that the prin...Silver Fox,<br /><br />I was absolutely amazed that the principal was only concerned for the bully's feelings and showed no compassion for my daughter's feelings. That is why I told him I would take it farther if he did not solve the problem that day. He never apologized for her behavior, said he was glad to help, never said anything to L to reassure her she was safe. But, the problem stopped. So, I was happy and had a strained relation with the principal. I just acted friendly because I had two in that school and another to enter. I did not want them treated shabbily because of my unwillingness to act like I was okay. I was not. <br /><br />Jacqueline,<br />This was not just a squabble. It was deliberate attack and the same technique over and over, so it could not be ignored. My child was in agony because she knew she tried to get out of the child's reach. That helpless feeling she had just killed me.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14991571309786149363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-70501785439089353412014-07-07T21:09:52.977-04:002014-07-07T21:09:52.977-04:00I am going to have to comment to comments here, be...I am going to have to comment to comments here, because I cannot reply to anyone. I have tried for an hour.<br /><br />Shady,<br />That puzzled me too--how no adult in charge noticed these things. Both teachers were surprised. If my daughter had whined and complained, she would have been the troublemaker, disrupting class. L was very amused that the principal almost got a chest full of milk, not for him getting wet, but that she knew how much trouble the spiller would get into. She went straight to school when her child was being bullied unmercifully when he entered preschool. <br /><br />All the proclamation of my "son was a good, sweet, kind, respectful child and should not have been blamed for this" always make me wait to see how many charges he has had against him. Often he abuses his mother. I know mothers love their own children, but I really was angry at my son, thinking he was in on the bullying of a very nice little boy. I tried to get my son to stick up for the bullied child. He said he did. At any rate, the bullied boy told me 37 years after the fact that my son was not involved. <br /><br />The kicker/spiller should have been in therapy if everyone knew she was suffering. I think she was jealous of my daughter who was very vivacious, laughing, talking (too much), and had lots of friends. This child was mousy and quiet before her father died. But, hurting my child was not going to be her therapy. <br /><br />Cherdo, I never minded being that parent. However, I was well-known as a room mother, scout leader, minister's wife, and involved with my children in another dance school and the swim team. They were going to listen to me. I wonder what success a less-present person would have had in protecting her child.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14991571309786149363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-12651107442944995612014-07-07T17:46:10.259-04:002014-07-07T17:46:10.259-04:00I was pleased to comment on your very interesting ...I was pleased to comment on your very interesting post. The children are so sweet.Janie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-75525077042811954972014-07-07T17:37:31.492-04:002014-07-07T17:37:31.492-04:00This was such a well-written but disturbing post. ...This was such a well-written but disturbing post. I guess I'm among the fortunate ones who never really experienced bullying. I was told to shut up a lot but that's expected when you're a chatterbox.stephen Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17659054447637207734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4501852053743373610.post-69983022480534916672014-07-07T16:54:06.418-04:002014-07-07T16:54:06.418-04:00That's so sad that the bully was fixated on yo...That's so sad that the bully was fixated on your daughter, especially when your daughter was ignoring her. It must've been some jealousy issue. Glad you stayed on top of the situation.Sherry Ellishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07844837212122243321noreply@blogger.com